Let Your Ideal Self Go

“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.” -Sven Goren Eriksson

“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.” -Alan Watts

Envision the man you want to be. Seriously though. Envision the details. What does he do for a living. What does he value. What are his hobbies. How does he treat himself, his friends and his family?
Now get rid of this guy. He is an ideal and he is making you miserable. You're not him, and even if you actually achieve being him, you will adjust your ideal such that your work is never done. You are setting yourself up for disappointment, and worse, this ideal self is skewing your perception of your true self. This ideal is causing your super-ego to constantly give you feedback on what you 'should' be doing. Don't 'should on yourself'. It sucks, and it makes you miserable. Learn about who you actually are, not who you think you should be.

Be nice to you, and let your ideal you go.  Improve yourself, and set goals, but not with the intention of becoming perfect or achieving anything in particular. Do things because they make you happy. Do things because you want to be better tomorrow than you are today, not because you are chasing an unrealistic expectation  Be nice to you. “You, yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha